Bette’s Blog
Bette’s Blog will be dedicated to providing single parents with insights, information, and strategies to help you solve problems, deal with difficult situations and continue to grow into maturity, wisdom and Self-Strength. Bette will provide a smorgasbord of ideas for guidance and inspiration as you do one of the hardest jobs on the planet.
Find Hope on The Single Mother Path
I heard today that Michele Obama once likened her parenting situation to that of a single mother. Very interesting, and very understandable. Whether single by choice, separation, divorce, death of your partner, his/her deployment, or his preoccupation with being president of the United States of America, single mothers have a common denominator. We are working hard every day, and every day we have the [...]
Empowered Thinking for Single Moms
You have the power to affect and influence your circumstances. But you can be robbed of the awareness of your power by fear or other negative emotions. As single moms painful feelings are normal and understandable, but what you tell yourself ( your thinking!) about these emotions can make a difference in the intensity and duration of your pain. The way you think also can make [...]
Hope and Encouragement for Single Moms
When I was going through the hardest years of bringing up my children as a single mother, including dating or having some years with a partner, what I most needed was hope and encouragement that I could see this incredible journey through to the conclusion of launching my children into adulthood. I needed voices of other mothers, other women who were doing the same thing [...]
Real Inner Power (and vulnerability)–We All Have It All!
What is it in the nature of us humans that makes us confuse real inner power, true inner strength, with not feeling our emotions? What makes us think that feeling little and weak is the same as not being strong? Human beings go through all manners of emotional and mental contortions to avoid feeling the feelings of feeling vulnerable. Vulnerable often gets mistaken for being [...]
Stories of Soul Wisdom
I have always been fascinated by people's stories. It makes sense that I became a clinical social worker, a therapist. I love hearing about people's stories and finding the roots and blossoms of their strengths. The manuscript for "Soul Mothers' Wisdom/Seven Insights for the Single Mother," officially delivered to Pearlsong Press, and due for publication sometime in 2014, is full of stories. In the book [...]
The Incredible Stories of Single Moms
I have always been fascinated by people's stories. I guess that is why I went into the business I am in. I remember how, when I was an adolescent in the no-cell-phone and just- before-the-cordless era, I sat in my mother's closet with the long curly cord just under the closed door as I "counseled" my friends. I loved listening to their stories, and I [...]
Single Motherhood: A Journey to Wholeness of Self
Regardless of the how life directs your path, the Self is ever striving toward a sense of wholeness, even when we don't know it. In my soon-to-be-published book, "Soul Mothers' Wisdom" I emphasize the idea that single motherhood can be a blessed journey to a destination of maturity and strength of your authentic Self. I have learned through my own experience and by discovering the [...]
In The True Spirit of Letting Go…
What does it mean to let go of a painful emotion, memory, thought, resentment or hurt? For most of us it often means, "I don't want to feel that feeling again!" And who could blame us, for who wants to feel emotional pain! However, in the true spirit of letting go, there exists a crucial paradox: to truly let go means to allow the feeling [...]